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Since throwing open the glittery pink curtain for the third round of Dream Quest (starting Sept. 1! Woo!), I’ve received some super awesome questions. So I’ve compiled the most common + important ones into this both handy and dandy email for ya.

Pour yourself a glass of coconut milk, grab some oreos, and let’s dig in!

1. Who is Dream Quest for?

I created Dream Quest for women in their 20′s (and 30′s) who have a huge fantasy goal that they finally want to make happen before the end of 2014.

It’s for you if you want to stop being held back by fear, stop breaking the promises you make to yourself, and want to crush this goal for real. It’s also for women who want to be part of an encouraging + love-filled group of like-minded women.

2. I’ve enrolled in so many groups or read a million books on setting goals… How is Dream Quest different?

Was that group or book designed to help you create a personalized action plan and combine it with weekly accountability to keep you on track? If not, that’s probably the biggest difference.

In Dream Quest, you’ll meet with me for two hours to outline the steps you need to take over the next 4 months to crush your goal. You’ll receive an exclusive email from me every other week full of tips and strategies to help you continue working toward your goal. We’ll also meet twice a month on a live group call to check in on your progress + I’ll share a mini-lesson on topics like fear, self-doubt, procrastination, and self-care.

I’ve worked with so many women who’ve asked me questions like: How do I stop procrastinating and actually make this happen? I’m terrified of failing, how do I get started? I know I’m meant to do something bigger, but I’m not sure what… can you help me gain more confidence to take the first step? I know what I want, but it seems so huge… can you help me break it down into manageable steps? I can’t stop looking at everyone else’s incredible lives and feeling like my mine is crap… how do I stop feeling jealous and start making my life awesome?

I’ve compiled all of that kind of information for you in Dream Quest.

3. Will this help me if I want to start my own business?

Yep! When you’re laying the foundation and trying to get your biz off the ground, it can feel so overwhelming. I know because that was me just 2 years ago!

In Dream Quest you’ll get all the info you need in one place. It’ll help you cut through the fog. I mean, I didn’t include anything that I haven’t personally tested and experimented with when building Your Super Awesome Life, so you know it’s gonna be helpful.

4. I don’t like working hard. I’m hoping that my goal will just happen on its own.

Good luck! Ha. I’m partly kidding, but ya know, if I’m honest, it’s not very likely that your goal is going to happen if you’re sitting on the couch eating Cheetos or spending every night at the bar with your BFFs.

But, I get what you mean. You don’t want to work yourself to the bone. You don’t want to feel any more exhausted than you already are.  Well, neither do I.

My goal-setting style is much more about doing more of what feels good and less of what feels bad. Simple, right? But that doesn’t mean you can’t just wait for good things to happen. You have to get out there and make some magic. In Dream Quest, I’ll show you the easiest way to do that.

5. I’m not exactly sure what my goal is, should I still sign up?

If you’re not sure what your goal is, but you want to make something happen, email me at and we can set up a free 30 min. Exploration Session to figure it out. 

6. Will I receive any fun surprises in the mail?

Mmhmm! Since I think you’re just lovely, I wanted to give you a special bonus. Everyone who joins Dream Quest will receive a super cute Erin Condren notebook in the mail. These are perfect for taking notes during our live calls + carrying around throughout the week to jot down any inspiring ideas that pop up while you’re grocery shopping or waiting in line at the bank.

7. How much does this cost?

Dream Quest is $199 a month (only 8 spots left!), with a $199 deposit to reserve your spot. This is just a tiny little slice compared with the $349 monthly price tag for my individual coaching, and I’ve poured the best-of-the-best information into it for you. Not bad, right?

8. Do you really know what you’re talking about when it comes to crushing goals?

Okay, no one has actually asked me this, but I know some of you are probably wondering about my expertise. Here are some of my proudest goal-crushing moments:

  • I lived in France for a year a taught English (See also, traveling all over Europe and eating endless crepes.)
  • I graduated from Columbia University with a Masters degree in Psychological Counseling.
  • I earned over 3,000 hours of supervised counseling sessions to become a Licensed Professional Counselor.
  • I quit my job as a non-profit counselor to work on Your Super Awesome Life full-time, just 10 months after my official launch.
  • I gave away 100 free coaching calls for my 28th birthday.
  • I’ve run 3 half-marathons and the Chicago Marathon.
  • In 2013, I grew YSAL’s newsletter subscribers by %1700.
  • Plus, I’ve helped hundreds of 20 & 30-somethings with crushing their goals so they can live their own version of a super awesome life.

9. What are my payment options?

Paypal. Credit card. Debit card.

10. I bought your e-books or joined one of your other group programs. Do I really need to invest in this one? Is it that different?

It is very different. When you purchase my workbooks, you get some awesome information, but you don’t get to work with me one-on-one. My other group programs are much shorter, lasting only 4 weeks. This is an intensive 4-month program. You’ll get an e-book style email from me twice a month, as well as two live calls per month, where I will coach you through any roadblocks and help you get unstuck. This is taking things to a whole new level.

Plus, it’s waaaaaay more fun. There is a private Facebook party group where we all hang out and share stories and basically become the best of friends. Because isn’t going after your goals always more fun with friends?

Have a question that I haven’t answered? You can send it to and I’ll be sure to send you an answer.

Want even more details about Dream Quest? You can find them right here.



How to be the most authentic version of you (while going after your goals)

When you’re going after your goals, it’s so easy to lose sight of the big picture and forget where you’re headed.

You may continue down a path that’s not in alignment with your deepest desires, just because you said you wanted it a few months ago.

You put yourself on autopilot and eventually you lose touch with what you really want.

So, how do you stop this from happening?

In addition to a little practice and intentional choices, here are the strategies that work best for me:

How to be the most authentic version of you (while going after your goals)

Identify your core values.

Your values inform your choices and guide you toward the life you want, where you feel fulfilled and inspired. {tweet this!}

Once you’ve identified your values, you’ll have a personal compass for each decision you make and each goal you go after, so you won’t lose touch with what’s most important to you.

Keep your eyes on your own paper.

If you’re starting a coaching business, avoid reading other coaching blogs. If you’re not a runner, but want to begin training for a 5K, don’t compare yourself to people running marathons. It will only breed jealousy and resentment, and we totally don’t want that.

Perform mini-reviews.

This is a time for reflection and honesty. Assess where you are, where you’ve been, and where you want to be, without judgment. At the beginning of each month, ask yourself these 5 questions:

1. What progress have I made toward my goal?
2. What was the biggest lesson I learned?
3. How have I celebrated my success?
4. Do any of my timelines need to be tweaked?
5. How do I feel while working toward my goals? Is that I how I want to feel?

Write your own definition of success.

Have you thought about what success means for you? Like what it really means? Is it getting a book deal, signing your first client, making $10K month through your biz, or waking up feeling happy every morning? Everyone has their own definition of success, so what’s yours?

To begin uncovering your definition of success, ask yourself these 3 questions:

1. What have you been telling yourself you want?
2. What do you actually want?
3. What needs to happen for you to let go of what you thought you wanted and make what you actually want become your reality?

If you sit down and work your way through these questions, there’s no doubt in my mind that 2014 is going to be a killer year for you. These exercises are going to get you incredible results…but there are still some missing pieces.

I mean, what if you have a goal in mind, but you’re not exactly sure how to create an step-by-step plan that works for you? Or maybe you have a hard time holding yourself accountable and need a little encouragement when you’re feeling stuck.

What happens when you’re going after your goal and you hit a roadblock that seems insurmountable and you can’t figure out how to get around it? What about those days when you just don’t feel like getting out of bed, much less working on your passion project or hitting the gym? And what about those of us who don’t know how to get over our self-doubt issues and cultivate the confidence to actually take the first step?

That is exactly why I created Dream Quest. I’m super passionate about helping women overcome their roadblocks + crush their goals, so I created this 4-month group coaching mastermind to help you make that happen. Interested? You can read more about it here. I’d love for you to join us!


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Recipe for the Experiment of Life

by Ashley on August 22, 2014 · 0 comments

Happy Friday, y’all! If you’ve ever wished for a simple recipe to help you through life, I’ve got a treat for you. My friend, Xandra, from Heroine Training is sharing her secret potion with us today (along with a special offer for her upcoming course, Blogwarts), so keep reading! 

recipe for the experiment of life

“What is your advice for someone starting a business?” I asked Ashley. Her answer caught me by surprise: Think of everything as an experiment. 

Being me*, my first reaction was OMG IT’S LIKE POTIONS CLASS.

* But of course, most of you don’t know who “me” is. Hi, I’m Xandra, aka Professor Xandra-dore of Heroine Training’s Blogwarts, an 8-week course/lifetime community. I recently moved to Scotland, and my suitcase included a wand, a pet unicorn, and a cauldron.]

Ah yes, cauldron. Let’s return to our business experiment and throw together some ingredients. Even if you’re not in business, Ashley’s philosophy applies to life too: everything is a learning experience. We just have to look at it that way.

Professor Xandra-dore’s Recipe for the Experiment of Life

1. Start with a teeny tiny footstep. Just a small one will do. Then another, then another. Whether you travel across the hall or miles away, it starts with a first step.

2. Continue to add teeny tiny footsteps in a steady stream throughout entire experiment.You can do it.

3. Stir in a glug of imagination and a dash of hope. Throw in your wildest ideas and back them up with full belief without pause.

4. Set aside to cool. Let your cauldron be and take a walk. Do some yoga. Meet a friend for lunch. It needs time to brew.

5. Stir newfound inspiration. Now that you’re back, add the inspiration that came to you when you weren’t even trying.

6. Remove any pressure that has bubbled to the surface. It will appear at some point, so be ready. Remember that you don’t need to worry about that. It’s only an experiment after all.

7. Season to your liking. Does it taste right? Sit well in your stomach? It has to feel good, and pure, and you. If it doesn’t, ask why not? Repeat until just right.

Oh and the most important step: The time is now. There is no need to wait for a nice-looking date, whether it’s the first of a month or the first of a year or a full moon. Start today. Give yourself time, because these things take it, but the important thing is to start.

Burst forth, be brave, young heroine. You’re always learning, but it’s important to always experiment.     

Here is a cauldron to aid you in your quest. 


The first 3 heroines to click to tweet to @missxandrabee, receive a 20% discount on admissionApply now to reserve your place [deadline: 29 August] and request your free Personal Wizard Profile worksheet here.




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5 Signs You're Ready to Turn Your Goals Into Reality

You know what you want.

You’ve been dreaming about going after this goal for a while. You feel it deep inside you that this is what you’re meant to do.

But you feel butterflies in your stomach when you think about taking a step forward and making this happen.

Maybe you’ve tried to make this goal happen before, but stumbled through your fears and quit. You may have been held back by worrying what others think.

You’re wondering if you’re really ready to take this leap and put yourself and your dreams first.

It’s a little scary, but it kinda feels like the good kinda of fear. The kind of fear that’s laced with excitement. The fear that comes along with going after big dreams.

You know this is the first step to living on your own terms and feeling fulfilled and excited about the life you’re living.

You’re almost ready to dive in. You’re almost ready to take the plunge.

You feel the craving to grow and stretch yourself, but how do you know if you’re not ready or if you’re just scared?

Here are 5 signs you’re ready to turn your goals into reality:

1. You write it down

When you write your down your goal, you’re claiming to the Universe, “Yes! This is what I want!” If you need more proof, a study at Dominican University in California showed that people are 42% more likely to make their goals happen when they write them down. So, where are you jotting down your goals?

2. You visualize what you want

Can you see it? Can you feel it? Can you taste it? This is how you begin to re-wire your brain. It’s the first step to believing that achieving your goal is possible. Not sure how to get started? Imagine… how you’re going to feel when you reach a particular goal? How will your life be different?

3. You uncover your self-limiting beliefs

More often than not, the only thing stopping us from getting what we want is the negative thoughts we’re telling ourselves. Do you notice when you’re sabotaging yourself? Do you recognize when your inner critic is speaking up? What work have you done to uncover your self-limiting beliefs?

4. You track your progress

Do you have a set time to check in with yourself and see what kind of progress you’re making toward your goals? Schedule in a day each month for a review to see what’s going well, what you’ve found challenging, and what you’ve learned about yourself.

5. You hold yourself accountable

Of course, you can’t just talk about your goals, you actually have to take action. Are you doing one thing each day to get your closer to your big dreams?

If you’re doing these 5 things, give yourself a high five because you’re already on your way to turning your goals into reality.

If you’re not, but you want to, I’d love to invite you to join us for Dream Quest, a 4-month group coaching mastermind. Our journey starts on September 1st and it will change your life (totes not exaggerating). You can read more about it and grab your spot here.

[photo credit: werkunz]