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How I Shifted From Coping to Thriving

by Ashley on March 24, 2014 · 4 comments

From Coping to Thriving is a six-week journey with BecomingWhoYouAre.net that will teach you how to turn your coping strategies into self-caring behaviours, leaving behind struggle and learning to thrive. This post is part of the Thriving Blog Tour, which is spreading self-kindness to the masses. To learn more and join us, click here.  

from coping to thriving

Do you ever think to yourself, “If I can just make it through this presentation/super stressful meeting/awful month, I’ll be happy.”

Do you find yourself wishing you could fast-forward time, hoping that everything will be better at some vague, undetermined point in the future?

If you’re willing your way through each day, you’re missing all the beauty and joy that life has to offer. You’re missing the warmth of the sunshine and unexpected moments filled with laughter.

I know because I’ve been there too.

Before I started Your Super Awesome Life, I worked as a counselor at a non-profit agency and found myself stuck on a conveyor belt of monotony and sameness.

I was coping, sure, but I wasn’t happy. I knew my life could full of so much more. I knew I deserved more.

So, how did I turn my life around? How did I create freedom and fulfillment?

How to Shift From Coping to Thriving

1. Recognize the pain.

Begin noticing when you’re unfulfilled, unhappy, or in pain. Take note of the ways you’re coping instead of living full out. For me, this was easiest to do through journaling.

2. Be compassionate with yourself

Once we’ve identified our unhappiness, it’s so easy to blame ourselves and others, but let’s pause first. When we begin with compassion and kindness, everything else becomes easier. Things flow. Things melt. Things bloom and fall into place.

And be gentle. This stage can take weeks, months, or even years. Learning to trust your heart, your instincts, and yourself again doesn’t happen overnight.

3. Dream big.

Now that you’ve begun connecting to yourself and your true desires again, ask yourself, “What do I really want?” If you were completely thriving in life, what would that look like?

It was during this phase that I uncovered my dream to create my own business and where Your Super Awesome Life was born.

4. Take one small step forward.

Just one step, one thing to get you closer to your version of happiness. We don’t want to overwhelm you, but one step every day will keep you moving closer to a thriving life.

If you feel that you may be coping your way through life and want to start thriving, join From Coping to Thriving today.

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Nicole March 24, 2014 at 10:45 pm

#4 is soooo important — we put so much pressure on ourselves to change things quickly but it’s the small consistent steps that make real change possible for the long-term!

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Rachael Phillips March 25, 2014 at 4:58 am

SUCH a good post!! I especially like #2 – we’re often SO hard on ourselves and that just means that we end up piling on the pressure and immobilising ourselves from moving forward. Brilliant post!

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Jessica Lawlor April 4, 2014 at 7:11 am

I found myself nodding along to all your questions at the beginning of this post. I am so guilty of the “I’ll be happy when X, X and X happen” and then those things happen and I’m still pushing for more. Super smart tips here! xo

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