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Inspirational Interview: Sara

by Ashley on February 11, 2013 · 5 comments

This is one of our Inspirational Interviews in which we talk to people who have imagined big dreams, made them a reality, and are living a life they love. Today we are talking to Sara about her decision to pack up her life and move across the country. 

Sara Fry LA

1. Tell us a little about yourself!

I’m 28 and I blog at Guide to Being Awesome. I live in Los Angeles now, but I’m from all over the place, which makes my answer to “where are you from” anything but simple. Some places I’ve lived include Boise, Idaho; Chicago, Illinois; small-town, Connecticut; and New York City – and I’ve never lived anywhere for longer than about 7 years. I have a gigantic blended family with a total of 6 younger siblings and multiple parental units. I love being outside and I also have a cat named Waffles.

2. What does living a “super awesome life” look like for you?

Giving myself permission to change, even if the changes aren’t how I expected myself to be; letting go of expectations; learning to give up grand mental plans.

3. Last year you decided to move across the country totally solo which is incredibly awesome and brave of you. What made you want to do that? 

I had been toying with the idea of moving out of New York City for several months when I lost my job in December 2011, but I wasn’t ready to leave right then. Also, the only thing I knew for sure was that I wanted to leave – I had no idea where I wanted to go! Convincing myself that maybe all I needed was a good shake up in my routine, I moved apartments and got a new job by the end of January. Just a few weeks into my new job, though, even my amazing new apartment (with exposed brick!) and exciting job weren’t enough squash that relentless restlessness.

Moving to Los Angeles started as a pipe dream – one of those, “Hey, maybe one day I’ll move to LA” things, right up there with African safaris and hot air balloon rides. But then in March I lost my job again and I knew I had to make a huge change. For me, that change meant leaping head first out of my comfort zone and moving to LA for real!

4. What were some of the challenges you faced when leaving your job, friends, and community back in NYC?

Leaving my huge family on the East Coast and five years’ worth of friendships was definitely one of the hardest things I’ve ever done and I totally struggled with nagging doubts and fears.  I loved my life in NYC and I loved NYC itself – so much. It’s a magical place and my life, at least on paper, was thrilling. But one of the hardest lessons to learn was that just because I loved that life didn’t mean that it was the right one for me to be living anymore. It didn’t happen overnight, but once I had that realization, moving became easier because it was simply the right step for me to take.

Uprooting yourself from any constant – whether it’s a city or a relationship or something else – is going to be incredibly difficult. I think the key is being 100% certain that it’s the right move for you – and you know you’re 100% certain when the worst case scenario stops scaring you!

5. What was the biggest reward in moving from NYC to LA?

Well, I don’t have to lug all my groceries for blocks and blocks. I can wear t-shirts in January, too! But seriously, I think so far the biggest reward has been simply the fact that I did it.

6. What little things in life right now make you do a happy dance?  Big things?

My giant jungle cat, Waffles. Palm trees lining the streets. Constantly warm weather. Realizing that in the six months I’ve been out West, I’ve made actual, lasting friendships.

7. In the movie of your life, who would you want to play you?

Maybe Jennifer Lawrence? Mostly because she’s crazy-talented and also drop dead gorgeous.

8. What is one thing you’d like to change about the world?

Communication skills.

9. What quote best represents you or motivates you in your current place in life?

This image is all over my fridge: http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_m02j4fu4Kl1qiqf01o1_500.jpg 

I also love this quote by Gail Caldwell: “The universe insists what is fixed is also finite.”

10. What inspires you to continue living a life you love each day?

Knowing that when I’m happy with myself and where I am in life, I’m more able to appreciate all of life’s adventures!

Thanks so much for sharing, Sara! This interview came at a perfect time for me since I’m moving to Canada next week! Have any of you ever considered a solo big move?

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Amanda February 11, 2013 at 9:32 am

Awesome interview! I’m from New Brunswick, Canada and have lived there my whole life. I moved to Beijing this past August (it was my first time flying!), and I’m so glad I did! The pros have outweighed any cons!

Where in Canada are you moving to? I hope you love it!

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Allison @ With Faith & Grace February 11, 2013 at 9:53 am

I moved from Portland, OR to New Jersey (just outside NYC) in 2007 on my own after I graduated college. To this day, people still tell me how brave they think that was, but to me, it was just something I wanted to do and I took the steps (like finding a job, researching the area) to make sure that happened. If it’s something you really want to do, you can let the size scare you. Just take it one step at a time. I’ve been here for almost 6 years now and have no regrets!

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San February 11, 2013 at 11:24 am

What a brave move! I know how that feels as I uprooted my life and moved to the west coast from Europe. One question though: where did you find local friends? Why I have made great friends here in the US, none of them are really local.

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Sara February 11, 2013 at 11:50 am

Thanks, San! I have made friends through my job and also locally through Twitter! It’s definitely a process to cultivate the new relationships while still adjusting to a new place, though, so I’ve found that patience has been absolutely key in letting my friendships form and move at their own pace.

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Lauren Michelle February 12, 2013 at 9:58 am

Right after I returned from New York City last July, I seriously wanted to go back and live there. I was struck with magic on the island of Manhattan, and I wanted to know what it was like to actually live there. But now that I’ve been back home six months, the place that comes back to me is Charleston. It’s only two hours from where I live now, but it’s the city I’ve longed to live in for the past three or four years. It’s not too big, not too small, and has an amazing arts and social scene, clad with beaches, history, and countryside. Plus, they have better job opportunities for my interests than the city I currently live in. So, it’s everything I could want in a living situation. The only downside is that you can’t wear t-shirts there in January. :(

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