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My “No Thanks” List

by Ashley on October 4, 2012 · 7 comments

Even though I can be a girly girl and I try to be positive as much as possible, I also know what I like and what I don’t. And some things get under my skin, if you know what I mean. In an effort to be more accepting of myself, my flaws, and my current view of the world, here is a list of eight things to which I politely say, “No Thanks”.

High Heels
Okay, so they look amazing on and truly do elongate your legs, but seriously. The blisters and aches they create are totally not worth it. I’d much rather wear my TOMS or even some Target ballet flats. Beauty does not have to equal pain. Plus, there’s that whole idea that they’re a detriment to feminism.

Fancy Weddings
I’m not even engaged or planning my own wedding, but I know that when I do, I don’t want it to be an expensive, stressful ordeal. There is no reason to spend $500 on invitations, $10,000 on a dress and $20,000 on a catered fancy meal. Let’s just get dressed up, say I love you, eat some cheese and yummy cake, and dance our faces off. Deal?

The Terms “Wifey” and “Hubby”
It’s not that I’m against all pet names. Oh no, I use some of the worst, including “sugar nugget” and “love muffin”, but I still can’t get behind “wifey” and “hubby”. Probably because it sounds like you’re in 3rd grade pretending to be married.

Work Talk During Happy Hour
If you’re grabbing drinks with work friends, that’s a whole different story. But when I’m getting together with friends from outside of work, I don’t want to complain about our bosses, creepy coworkers, and frustrating projects. This is our time to catch up and laugh and talk about how hot Ryan Gosling is. Let’s leave work talk for work hours.

Cooking Dinner Every Night
I love cooking as much as the next girl, but some nights I’m just too tired to even think about standing in front of the stove. These are the nights made for take-out, left-overs, or popcorn and wine. Without the side of guilt.

The Club Scene
I tried to go clubbing a few times shortly after I turned 21, but I was a huge, fat failure. I just can’t handle the super loud music and guys trying to dance all up on me. Can’t we just go to a bar where we can actually hear each other talk and then maybe eat some cupcakes at home while watching You’ve Got Mail?

Talking Politics
This one is especially tough in Texas, so I try to avoid it as much as possible. But even so, I generally despise talking politics because it usually ends in a heated discussion and I can literally feel my heart racing and stress level rising. That’s not my idea of a good time.  You can have your opinions and I can have mine, I just don’t won’t to argue with you about them. It’s cool.

I’ll wear them out in public every day, but as soon as I walk into my apartment, I’m changing into shorts. Or no pants at all. It happens. It’s my home. I’m comfortable. Who cares?


Inspired by Sarah’s list of “10 Aspects of Modern Life I Want No Part Of“.


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Sam October 4, 2012 at 6:55 am

If it weren’t for my recent move to Korea, I would agree with you on every point. But the change of scenery has required me to reassess my hatred for clubs and club culture. I mean, I still hate it in the states. But here it is a different world. The Korean men are very respectful and no one would even contemplate rubbing their genitals on you. Not just that, but the entire room is full of instant friends. Like you’re all sharing in this special kind of moment that no one will ever experience exactly like this ever again and because of that, you share a common bond. Amazing stuff.


Stephany October 4, 2012 at 8:14 am

Seriously, my list would probably mimic yours if I were to do this list! I can’t stand high heels (give me flats any day – and I say this as a short, five-foot-two woman), politics, or clubs. And I know my wedding will be a simple ordeal and lots of DIY because I just cannot fathom spending a TON of money on ONE day in your life. It’s not worth it to me. Also, yes to not cooking every night. If I get in front of the stove 3-4 nights a week, I consider the week a win. Ha!


Andrea October 4, 2012 at 8:30 am

Wifey and hubby are the worst, absolutely hands down, though I’m also anti-pants.


Sara October 4, 2012 at 8:38 am

I completely agree with “wifey” and “hubby”– they do not sound flattering at all. Also, I do not enjoy the use of the term “preggers.” It does not sound beautiful enough to describe the glow that is pregnancy.

And I am down for forgetting politics, not wearing pants, and talking Ryan Gosling anytime. We sound like we could be friends. :)


kristin October 8, 2012 at 1:28 pm

yes yes yes yes yes. i wish you lived here so we could hang out on the couch with cheese + you’ve got mail.


Dorothy November 1, 2012 at 8:12 am

Hi! I just discovered your blog after Brene retweeted your book club post. I want so badly to join, but I have class that night. Maybe next time!

I love this post. I completely agree with you on fancy weddings, politics, cooking dinner every night, and the club scene. Some of my coworkers at my previous job thought I was weird and stuck-up for not wanting to go clubbing with them. I had to accept, whether or not they did, that it just wasn’t me. Like you, I’d much rather have drinks over an actual conversation or better yet watch chick flicks on my couch!


The Dame Intl December 5, 2012 at 3:28 pm

No pants are the best pants!


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