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Things I Need to Hear and Some Advice to Myself

by Ashley on October 8, 2012 · 6 comments

Sometimes, the hardest part about learning to practice self-love, for me, is actually taking my own advice. I’m awesome at telling friends what I think they should do or how they should handle a situation, but when it comes to myself? I feel stuck. I wonder if I’m really making the right choice. Did that person really mean to offend me? Or how the heck will this all pan out in the end? I NEED TO KNOW.

So, today I’m making a list of all the advice I need to give myself. This is what I need to hear this week. This is how I need to practice self-love and chill out.

You can walk. When I go for a run, I like to actually, you know, run. But sometimes, that’s not how things work out. There are plenty of reasonable explanations and all of them are acceptable. I don’t have to beat myself up because I only ran two out of the four miles. Walking is awesome too.

Just do it. This means taking those bags of clothes to Goodwill, mailing that letter, returning those shoes, and paying that bill. I know it’s a pain, but I promise you’ll feel better after it’s done.

You’ll figure it out. This has basically become my new life motto. Bought a new mic and don’t know how to use it? I’ll figure it out. Want to move to Canada, but have no idea how to make that happen? I’ll figure it out. Making homemade pizza crust for the first time? I’ll figure it out. I don’t have to know all the steps right now. It’s okay. I’ll figure it out.

Be kind. When I’m feeling overwhelmed or stressed out, kindness seems to be the first thing to go. I get snappy and rude and it’s not cute. Kindness makes every feel better.

Move your body. I know it’s easier to stay on the couch all day and watch Dawson’s Creek, but if you get up and move your body, you’ll feel better about yourself AND more productive. It’s a win-win. Meet a friend and go on a walk. Clean the bathroom. Go shopping. Anything works!

You can have french fries can be dinner, just not every night. It’s true, I ate an entire cookie sheet full of french fries for dinner on Saturday night and it was delicious. That’s the fun part about being adult. I can do that and no one can tell me otherwise. It’s totally cool, as long as I don’t do it all the time and actually eat some salads too.

Not everyone is going to like you and that’s okay. It’s so hard to remember this during moments when I feel hurt or not included, but it’s true. I mean, although I try to be polite and kind, that doesn’t mean I like everyone and everyone doesn’t have like to me. There are almost 7 billion people in the world. I’ll find my people.

What advice do you need to give yourself?

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ameena October 9, 2012 at 10:26 am

i definitely think you’ll figure it out. i like to say a similar thing which is “it will all work out” it kind of evolved from my favorite quote which goes “everything will be okay in the end, so if it is not okay, it is not the end.”

anyway this is all very good advice. and i completely agree, the only advice i am terrible at taking is my own.


Miri October 9, 2012 at 11:05 am

BTW why do you want to move to Canada? How do you figure that one out? (not asking to pry! but as someone contemplating a big move, and is not sure I’ll figure it out. BTW I came here through your post on Michelle Ward’s blog)


Jolene ( October 9, 2012 at 8:47 pm

What great advice! I give myself advice to chill out, relax and not worry so much about everything :-)


Gina October 11, 2012 at 12:14 pm

All great advice. :)


The Dame Intl December 5, 2012 at 2:53 pm

It’s so easy for us to be hard on ourselves, there are a few times I have to remind myself to chill out and rub my own back, take a deep breath and give myself some time. These are great reminders, thank you :)


Butch November 6, 2016 at 1:37 am

What I find so intreesting is you could never find this anywhere else.


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