Hi, friends! I’ve got another super awesome guest post to share with you today while I’m soaking up the sun in California! My friend, Sarah Lambert, helps women love themselves fully, get clear on what they really want, and bring their dreams to life over on her blog, The Laughing Medusa. Sarah is brilliant and I can’t wait to share this post with you. Keep reading to learn why (and how) we are what we think!
“What you think you become. What you feel you attract. What you imagine you create.” – Buddha
If on a cellular level, we are what we eat, then on an existential and metaphysical level, we are what we think.
Our thoughts shape who we think we are, what we think is possible, and how we perceive the world around us. On a fundamental level, our thoughts create our reality.
The good news is that you aren’t stuck with the same old thoughts you’ve been thinking for as long as you can remember. We all know that we have a choice about what food we eat, but you might not realize that you also get to choose the thoughts that you think.
Most of us have been thinking the same fearful thoughts for so long that we’re unconscious of even thinking of them. They’ve become completely ingrained in our minds and we just accept them as facts.
We allow these thoughts to loop through our heads without thinking about where they came from or how they’re impacting us. In essence, we’re letting our inner critics rule the show.
But rather than pushing that voice aside and hoping it will go away, when we name our fears we can look at them objectively. We can begin to notice evidence that runs contrary to what we’ve been telling ourselves. We can interrupt our fearful thoughtful patterns when we notice them emerge.
Sit down with a journal or a piece of paper and without judging yourself, start making a list of your fears. When you imagine creating your super awesome life, what does your inner critic say to push you down? What are your fears around money, health, your career, and relationships? Try to get every limiting belief, every piece of negative self-talk, and every unspoken worry onto paper.
When you’ve finished writing, spend a few minutes taking a careful look over your list. What patterns do you see? What threads do your fears have in common? Distill these down to your 2-3 core fears.
The power of this exercise is that you can now notice when these thoughts emerge. You can begin to think about where they’ve come from and build up evidence to the contrary.
And rather than simply accepting them when they pop up, you can begin to replace your fearful thoughts with new, loving ones.
Spend a few minutes thinking of an affirmation that could begin to replace the fearful thoughts that have been looping in your mind. Pick short, snappy statements that affirms a positive belief, like “Every day, in every way I am getting better and better” or “I am enough just as I am.”
When you notice a fearful thought emerge, make the choice to shift gears and think something else. Even if you don’t believe it at first, the decision to not get mired down in fear and anxiety will begin to create positive shifts.
We can’t just think our way to a super awesome life – we have to take action to fully reap the benefits. But when our thoughts are creating a fearful existence and keeping us stuck in a cycle of self-loathing, the power of choosing a different thought is empowering. The world opens up, what we see as possible begins to expand, and soon we begin to see that our dreams are a lot closer than we thought. Because, after all, we are what we think.
Sarah Lambert is a Canadian expat who packed her bags and moved across the Atlantic to London, England in pursuit of her dreams.
She’s a writer who helps women love themselves fully, get clear on what they really want, and bring their dreams to life. On her website, The Laughing Medusa, she shows that life is the cumulative story of the choices you make, so she advocates for making big, bold, sparkly choices.
Her e-course Romance Yourself is a 40-day journey to self-love is a daily practice and choose-your-own-adventure guide to loving yourself. It’s a guiding hand, encouraging voice, and kick in the ass that will jump start your self-love journey.
Sarah wants to help you define your dreams and design a life you love.
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